|Finding love on the net
Making a good Virtual impression could help you find love on the net...
Love, romance and dating have taken on a new dimension. We see more teenagers sitting in front of computers chatting and making acquaintances. You can hide your identity but still make thecontact. There are instances of people getting married through computers. This is a better way to get to know your partner. May be its easier that way you remain relatively anonymous because you can hide behind an e-mail ID, a chatroom nickname or handle
Here are a couple of pointers on how to project the right image on the web.
* Introduce yourself, and let the person know why youre writing to him a wee bit of honest flattery doesnt hurt.
* Attract attention by using uncommon and striking copy.
* Avoid boring stuff. Have some fun. Be daring, express yourself!
* Be honest. Show a little interest by asking one or two questions in your first e-mail, and be friendly but not trite or cliched.
* Say it with panache. Be witty. Tell a funny story.
* And please do a spell check before you post your profile on the site. Spellings, punctuation and grammar are as important as content. It need not be perfect, but it shouldnt be sloppy either.
* Avoid extolling your many virtuesits conceited and boring.
* Dont whine, complain or go on about any problems in your life.
* Do NOT cast yourself in the role of the victim, the always wronged or the emotionally wounded.
* A profile that begins with Desperately seeking is a definite no-no, as is bringing up stories from past relationships.
* Be positive and optimistic without being dramatic.
The Internets chat sites and meeting rooms are the perfect hang-out for someone whos painfully shy but lonely, or who doesnt get out much. This is where a real life wallflower turns into a total party animal. Then again, extroverts who just want to make new friends also log on in droves!
THE WWW CONNECTION
On the World Wide Web, you can chat, flirt, date, fight, make up, make friends, find old friends and lovers and in some cases, even marry. You can meet people without really worrying about whether you fit in. You can date without washing your hair. You dont have to spend too much money and you dont have to care if your eyebrows arent done or you havent shaved your legs (thats assuming you dont have a webcam!). All youve got to do, is have the best one-liners and exhibit a great sense of humour to get noticed from amongst the horde of chatters.
MAKING AN IMPRESSION
What youve got to remember, is that here too, first virtual impressions last. Its almost like actually meeting people or going on a date. There are no second chances. Those first few seconds of contact set the seal on the other persons perception of you.
This is a world thats always in a hurry. Instant assumptions often lead to immediate decisions to accept or reject anythingeven a potential friend or lover. Everything is just a click away.
THE CRITICAL SPLIT SECOND
In romance, we rarely second-guess the obvious. You would take 10 seconds to read a profile on a site, decide whether or not to reply; whether to move on, or send a friendly greeting.
YOUR CHAT-ROOM NICKNAME
If you dont want to be hounded by perverted chatters or get into situations that could be potentially dangerous, stay away from suggestive nicknames and identities. Ones like biteme_jan or crazyasstud or firstname.lastname@example.org or- those describing body parts (in most cases, highly exaggerated) are not such a good idea. You might think you sound cool, but actually, you sound cheap and plain desperate! Remember, suggestive names are guaranteed to get you attentionof the wrong sort! The web has its collection of weirdos that can spell major trouble. Youll also be devaluating and selling yourself short. Think of the kind of person you want to attract and choose your nickname accordingly. Play safe, use a name thats funky and hip, yet on the right side of decent.
IN THE FLESH
A truthful profile, a funky nickname and carefully-crafted but honest e-mails, lay a solid foundation for friendship, and will probably lead to a first date in the real world. Sure, it is a bit disconcerting to realise that you know so much about the person, but you still have to become accustomed to their physical presence. You may be a bit awkward initially, but youll get over that soon.
Make your best real-world first impression by just being yourself. If youve been honest, theres nothing to hide, so relax. If you like what you see and are comfortable in the others presence, you can think of taking the friendship forward. But if you realise that hes lying that his real self is in total contrast to his virtual avatar, hit the road, and dont give him another thought.
There are no strict rules when it comes to first impressions, yet so many of us
dont put our best foot forward during our early romantic encounters. Dating is
competitive todayin the real or the cyber world. The next time you trip down the
information superway, remember, that though you could end up with more than you bargained
for, you also might just meet your soulmatea lot depends on the image you project.
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